On grandstanding vs the Ethic of Reciprocity (aka the Golden Rule)

Don’t you just hate it when people “grandstand” at your, or other people’s expense? Have you ever seen people giving crude, offhand, unfair, let-the-public-know remarks against another person without thinking of the consequences? It’s sad, especially when the remarks given turn out to be blatant lies because the “grandstander” ought to have gotten their facts ironed out in the first place.

These are some of the things that people do that can really irritate or piss anyone off. And it sure would be a darn good sight to see the offender with their foot in their mouth (although I would love to see a heel and ankle fit through it as well).

While I have been known to have committed these things in the past, I have been the unfortunate recipient of quite a number of these unconscionable acts as well. And so, having said that, I truly and deeply apologize to those who have been unfortunate enough to see my bad side (wow, the past few days have really given me time to reflect on a lot of things). My vow – Never Again!

And for those who resort to “grandstanding” as a survival tool, either at work, politics, school, and daily living, you ought to realize that there IS a human being at the receiving end of that action. And the damaging effects could be far reaching. Now, imagine how nasty things could be if a “retaliatory strike” was in order. It’ll all just be one vicious cycle.

In the past, I would have countered with an all guns a-blazing, no-holds-barred attitude. But right now, I’ve found out that forgiveness, and a prayer, works mighty fine.


“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” — Jesus
“What is hateful to you, do not to your fellow man.” — Hillel
“What you do not wish upon yourself, extend not to others.” — Confucius

Watch out, there’s a traitor in your workplace

How good are you with judging a person’s character, especially a co-worker’s? I believe I suck at it.

I just found out recently that a former co-worker of mine was responsible for some pretty nasty, behind-the-scenes office maneuvering and politicking that eventually helped me decide to leave my job in one of the companies that I used to work for. I feel like Caesar during his assassination, “Et tu, Brut?”

It’s quite sad because I treated him as a friend. I even used to envy him for his work ethic. But this guy, so I’ve heard, apparently has a lot of issues that he needs to sort out at present. And in my opinion, being a “backstabber” is one of them. It’s too bad he didn’t take the “Indian Talking Stick” approach by speaking to me and clarifying things.

In any case, it’s water under the bridge and a blessing in disguise. Life goes on, the earth spins, and karma gets to you.

Ginebra Gin Kings – PBA Philippine Cup champions

If you’re a Barangay Ginebra fan like me, then you’ll be absolutely delighted to know that the Barangay Ginebra Gin Kings bagged the Philippine Basketball Association (PBA) Philippine Cup last night via a thrilling, 96-94, come-from-behind victory over the San Miguel Beermen at the famed Araneta Coliseum.

Ginebra fell behind 0-2 early in the series, but they would win their next four games, with games 3 and 4 being blowouts. This makes Ginebra only the fifth PBA team to win the title after losing their first two games. Ginebra point guard Jayjay Helterbrand was adjudged Finals MVP, while Mark Caguioa won the Best Player of the Conference plum.

To coach Jong Uichico and the entire Ginebra team, congratulations! 🙂

Google loses copyright suit in Belgian court

Kimmie sent me an email which pointed out a fairly recent Business Week article about Google losing in a copyright infringement suit filed by a Belgian publisher and copyright group.

Apparently, the Belgian publisher (Copiepresse) didn’t like the idea that some of their copyrighted titles and news articles appeared on the Belgian Google News or Google.be site.

If you take a look at the Google News site, you’ll notice that Google doesn’t actually reproduce entire articles, but instead, it posts news summaries and titles and includes links to the original or source website. This is part of their news aggregation service, which I, as a consumer and netizen, find extremely helpful and a blessing, in more ways than one.

My point is, come on, if you’re a news publisher and you don’t want your articles copied or acknowledged by the general public, then don’t publish over the web in the first place! There is a fine line between wanting to earn big bucks and having a sense of integrity and credibility (in this case I feel that the publisher took advantage of copyright loopholes to earn some “easy” money at the expense of Google). To add insult to injury, you can bet that a lot of traffic that went to the publisher’s website wouldn’t have been possible had it not been for its inclusion on the Google News aggregate list.

Can you imagine what will happen if Google and other search engines and aggregation services, such as MSN and Yahoo! suddenly decide to “de-list” or “un-index” sites of those who filed lawsuits against them? It’s possible that these sites will soon be forgotten and they’ll probably end up having to beg to be re-included in these search engines.

Do you think it was fair?

15 things that scare men

Here’s a very interesting article in Yahoo! Health entitled “What Scares a Man?”.

I absolutely agree with it, although I think #9 (Her Tears) ought to be on the top. I would like to add that one thing that also scares us men is when it comes to sharing our true feelings. We are at the mercy of women once we get to share our emotions, and this kind of leaves most men feeling vulnerable and uncomfortable. This also often leads to other things like fear of rejection, commitment, etc.

What do you think?


An Ash Wednesday story

Conne and I heard mass a while ago at Greenbelt Chapel, which is about a block away from my office.

Today is “Ash Wednesday” by the way, an important day for Catholics. It marks the first day of Lent. And is the only day that Catholics actually get to boldly walk around bearing a symbol of their faith, the cross-shaped, darkish ash that are marked on their foreheads.

What the priest said during his homily was very interesting (yes, I actually DO listen to homilies at times! Ha!). He had an acronym for each of the letters A, S and H, of Ash Wednesday. And here’s how it goes:

A = Admit or Acknowledge

We have to admit or acknowledge our sins and our imperfection. This is the first step towards change.

S = Step forward

When you have your foreheads marked with an ashen cross, you actually step forward, among peers. And you do so because you acknowledge your sins and are willing to change. Stepping forward means being committed.

H = Hope

We have to do our part in mending our ways. But we also do this in hope that our faith will bring us God’s loving and saving grace.

I just also found out that Ash Wednesday isn’t actually a day of obligation for Catholics. And it’s also not a sin if you don’t participate in the administering of the ashes. This further strengthens the belief that change needs to come from the person and it should not be forced into him.

So, are you willing to acknowledge, step forward and hope? Remember, it’s your choice.


My baby’s first real word is — “daddy”

Have you ever wondered which word between “daddy” and “mommy” will a toddler be able to utter and pronounce earlier?

I’ve heard somewhere that toddlers usually pronounce “daddy” earlier. And I believe that it’s true as evidenced by my 15 month old toddler, CJ.

Conne was able to write about the experience in her blog.

Here’s a video of CJ uttering the words “daddy” and “mommy”:

Happy birthday dad!

One of the reasons why this day, February 18th, is so special, aside from celebrating Chinese New Year, is because it’s my late father’s (Phil J. Bacolod) birthday. He was born on February 18th, 1950 in Cebu City, Philippines.

My dad was a military officer and a Philippine Air Force fighter pilot. He was a member of the famed Philippine Air Force Blue Diamonds aerobatic team. He lost his life serving for his country. I wrote a blog entry about it once – here.

Dad, wherever you are, we want you to know that you’ll always be remembered and loved. We love you.

Google lifts its invitation-only gmail account restriction

I recently blogged about Google’s Google Book Project. Now get this, Google finally opened up Gmail to new comers just few hours ago. They finally decided to drop its ‘invitation-only’ restriction.

Gmail, which is now the 3rd largest email hosting company, currently has approximately 60 million users. And with the existing 2.8GB (and growing) mailbox capacity, powerful email search capability, and its tight integration with different, extremely useful Google apps, such as Google Talk, it will definitely keep its main competitors, namely MSN’s Hotmail (approx. 236 million users) and Yahoo! Mail (approx. 246 million users) on their toes.

You can take a gander at what the impact will be for us ‘netizens’. This will most likely mean an improvement in the overall global webmail service offering. Which spells good news for us!

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